Friday 31 May 2019

A letter to my 20 year old self


Birthdays are always a very reflective time for me and since this year marks my 30th birthday, I have been reflecting on my past 10 years. A lot can happen in a decade and I wanted to mark this occasion on my blog by sharing a letter that I wrote to my 20 year old self. Obviously, my 20 year old self is now a 30 year old and these lessons have been learnt, but I wanted to write this letter to reflect on the things that God has brought me through during my 20s. I wanted to remind myself of the journey He has taken me on and to share with those who are standing 10 years behind me the lessons and experiences that they may go through before they reach 30.





“Dear Daisy,

You have made it to your 20s and I am certain that you think you know it all and you have figured out life. You have so much to learn and so much to experience. Let me tell you:

You will grow in your faith!

This is the time that you will learn the most yet about God and what it means to be a Christian. You will see the true power of the word of God and you will persevere in prayer. You will pick up unconventional ways of thinking, and even at times, your friends and family won’t understand your stance. Don’t be afraid to be peculiar and stand apart from this world. It will be hard sometimes but God will honour you and you will grow in Him.

You will make wrong choices

I am so sad to write this, but you will make decisions that will change the course of your 20s. Decisions that will take time to overcome, but God is faithful. Through much prayer, study and persevering effort, God will help you to stand again and will override events to make bitter trials a blessing and you will be a better you. Just guard your choices and your associations going forward.

You will move!

Yes, you will leave London with no job and no plans except a burning desire to follow God’s leading. Your new home will be in Wales and you will learn lessons in patience, diligence, perseverance, trust and waiting on the Lord.


You will have your heart broken

…but the Lord “healeth the broken in heart and bindeth up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3. You will trust God to heal from past hurts and you will grow to love Him more deeply. He will show you that “true love is a high and holy principle, altogether different in character from that love that is awakened by impulse, and which dies when severely tested.” Adventist Home pg. 50. He will show you his standards and He will keep and guard your heart.




You will see miracles

God will come through for you at the 11th hour! Things that you thought were impossible, He will make happen for you…even when you are tempted to disbelieve. Have more faith and remember “…all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose” Romans 8:28 and “No good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly” Psalm 84:11.

You will lose loved ones

Three times round…but God will give you strength. He will turn every teardrop into glittering stones and diamonds rare. He will leave you with precious memories to keep in frames of gold and silver, and the blessed hope of the resurrection.

You will travel

Yes, from America, to the Netherlands, to Spain, to Norway, to Paris, Berlin and many other places. God will give you new experiences as you experience different cultures, meet new people and He will give you precious memories to carry home with you.

You will be misunderstood, talked about and hated

I must tell you this…often this can be the reality. Everybody likes to be liked…but that is not what is promised. Remember, Jesus was misunderstood, talked about and hated. He knows the pains of these things yet He encourages you to keep moving forward and to trust in Him. No matter how hard you try Daisy, people may be bent on misunderstanding you, people may have so many things to say about you, people may even hate you…but it’s ok, just make sure nothing makes you bitter and that you rise above all slights. Make sure that your heart doesn’t harbour any hatred for  anyone. God will give you strength to draw warmth from coldness.




You will be betrayed

But it will teach you about wisdom and discernment. Remember the lord is a “man of war” (Exodus 15:3) He will fight for you. Just be content in knowing that all things are recorded in the books of heaven, and God will take care of things. Rest.

You will feel alone

…but you won’t be alone. Remember, being alone and being lonely are two different things. One is a state of being and one is a state of mind. Remember if Christ is all you have…you have everything. You will be alone, but not lonely.


You will have the best year of your life

The year 2014 will be the best year of your life!!! The gospel will do so much for you and you will experience true joy and peace. You will feel alive and will praise God for mountains climbed. However, sadly tough times will come upon you in the next few years but the experiences of this year and the grace of God will carry you through.

You will be greatly loved

By your heavenly father and by all of those faithful ones He will put along your path. You will rejoice in the blessedness of fellowship and you in turn will love. Make sure you cherish those blessed ones, never take them for granted and always pray for them by name.

You will learn that some friendships are just for a season.

Remember when you thought all your secondary school friends would be your friends now?

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…” Ecclesiastes 3:1

And this is also the case for friends, even in your 20s you will experience more “growing apart. God has a purpose and a plan for you – remember where God is taking you, sadly not all can go with you…even if you want them to. This may also be the case for them – maybe where they are going, you cannot go.  It will be painful and sometimes baffling, but you’ve just got to trust God’s wisdom and trust the process. Just like the autumn season, trees have to let go of leaves in order to grow and enter into the next season. Thank God for the season and thank God for growth.




You will start a blog

And what an experience that will be. You will blog about faith, love, marriage, sheep (lol), moving, loss, relationships, contentment, friendships and much more.  God will give you the courage to be bold about your faith and the grace to be candid and share intimate details of your life. Remember even if one person is blessed by your blog, your mission has been accomplished.

You will learn that what will be will be

Learn to accept things and move on. Allow God to order and direct your steps and He will bring it to pass. Always remember that the best place to ever be is in the centre of God’s will.

You will experience trials

…and you will learn patience. You will learn to be still and trust God…even when you don’t understand. Our trials are weighed and measured in heaven before being given to us so always remember “God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13.  He will never give you more than you can bear.

“Our sorrows do not spring out of the ground. God “doth not afflict willingly nor grieve the children of men.” Lamentations 3:33. When He permits trials and afflictions, it is “for our profit, that we might be partakers of His holiness.” Hebrews 12:10. If received in faith, the trial that seems so bitter and hard to bear will prove a blessing. The cruel blow that blights the joys of earth will be the means of turning our eyes to heaven. How many there are who would never have known Jesus had not sorrow led them to seek comfort in Him! The trials of life are God’s workmen, to remove the impurities and roughness from our character. Their hewing, squaring, and chiseling, their burnishing and polishing, is a painful process; it is hard to be pressed down to the grinding wheel. But the stone is brought forth prepared to fill its place in the heavenly temple. Upon no useless material does the Master bestow such careful, thorough work. Only His precious stones are polished after the similitude of a palace.” Thoughts from the Mount of Blessing pg. 10

You will rejoice at the end of days!

Life may not have worked out as you expected it to but you will rejoice at his unfailing faithfulness and loving kindness. As you enter your 30s your anthem and song will be “Great is thy faithfulness” (Lamentation 3:23) and you will sing Daisy…and not be silent.


“Thou hast turned for me my mourning into dancing: thou hast put off my sackcloth, and girded me with gladness; To the end that my glory may sing praise to thee, and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give thanks unto thee for ever.”

Psalm 30: 11-12




With overflowing love, 

♥ Miss Daisy ♥ (Your 30 year old self)



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Monday 20 May 2019

30 things I've learnt in 30 years

So 30 days before my 30th Birthday, I shared a video each day on multiple social media platforms describing one thing I have learnt in 30 years.


These videos can be found on my Facebook page – www.facebook.com/missdaisyspetals


For those who want a quick summary, here they are below.



1. A word is enough for the wise

2. Only by pride cometh contention – Proverbs 13:10

3. Those who gossip with you gossip about you.

4. Input = Output

5. Be careful who you fall in love with. Some people are looking for love and some people are looking for help.

6. For children: Don’t wear clothes with your name displayed on it, as strangers can approach you acting like they know you.

7. What you compromise to get, you must compromise to keep.

8. Your enemy today could be your helper tomorrow.

9. A continual dropping in a rainy day and a contention woman are alike –                Proverbs 27:15

10. “I’m sorry you…” is NOT an apology.

11. Go by facts and not by feelings (principle over emotions)

12. Do not get involved in work/office politics and dramas – you will get burnt.

13. None of us are above influence.

14. One can lie by omission so probe FULLY

15. Our thoughts follow our words.

16. “…the curse causeless shall not come” – Proverbs 26:2 – Nothing ever happens for no reason.

17. Your friends are NOT your customers.

18. “Church hurt” is REAL…but you’ve got to rise above it.

19. Look after the pennies and the pounds will looks after themselves

20. Be wary of people try to tell you about how other people are like. (Form your own first       impressions)

21. Take mixed signals as a no.

22. It’s important to understand love languages.

23. A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity – Proverbs 17:17

24. Approach is key!

25. What Susie says about Sally says more about Susie than Sally

26. Sometimes no closure is closure.

27. When yuh 'an inna di lion mout tek time draw it out (When your hand is in a Lion's mouth remove it carefully/slowly)

28. Thinking about getting married? You need to have a list. 

29. Sometimes you have to lose to win. 

30. SMILE! You don't own all the world's problems. 




I am thankful for all the lessons that life brings and for the many ways God teaching us to navigate through them. If you were following the videos each day I pray that
you were blessed by them and look forward to the many future experience that God has in store for us, to teach us and strengthen us.


I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.

 Psalm 32:8




Love, your girl forever,

♥ Miss Daisy   


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