A few weeks ago I was talking to a friend on the phone, and during our
conversation she briefly mentioned that she had broken up with her boyfriend as
it was becoming more evident to her that God was not leading them together.She said that she didn’t want to talk about it but asked if I would keep her in
my prayers.
Later that day, she sent me a text message saying that she had been breaking down in tears all day. I remember looking at her message and thinking “What should I say?” “What do I tell her?” “What response would best help someone whose heart is breaking?” I didn’t respond directly to her message but this thought came to me - “cry now, rather than later”. By this I mean, it is better to bear the pain and the brunt of a hard but right decision than to cry harder and longer as a result of following through with the wrong decision.
I remember when I was living on campus in my final year of university and during that time I was in the process of severing a friendship. I remember waking up one day and rushing around to get to my early morning lecture, and while I was brushing my teeth I looked into the mirror and, to my surprise, I burst into tears. Now, I’m not talking about a few tear drops down my cheeks; I was literally weeping, almost uncontrollably! Some of my friends and family may find this part quite interesting as those who know me really well know I rarely ever cry. I can't actually remember the last time I cried, I think it may have been about 3 years ago but I think the last time I cried before then was probably about...SORRY!!!! Let me get back to the story! So I was crying in my little ensuite bathroom, feeling like my life was over and that I would never be happy again. The whole situation was so painful but I knew that I had to swallow the bitter pill, resting in the fact that I had made the right decision and God’s grace would be sufficient for me.
Now in 2016, am I still hurting over the situation? No, because the hurt was only temporary and the Lord truly gave me beauty for ashes and a joyful song. During that time, the Lord specifically taught me how to accept with joy whatever His providence ordains and to embrace every gift from God, including loss (I spoke about this really briefly here in my very first blog post J)
Looking back at the situation in light of what God has done in my life since then, I can honestly say that I didn’t make the right decision but the best decision. Back then I didn’t appreciate it that much but now I am truly happy that I chose to fully embrace the beauty of God’s ways.
So my dear friend, my advice to you and to anyone else who has had to make a painful but right decision is this - Cry on…let it all out, knowing that your tears are honourable before the Lord and are precious tokens of your strength and courage. It may be painful but you have chosen Him over your own ways, the Lord will draw near to you with comfort and healing and will allow you to see the fruits of unyielding obedience and the joy of walking in paths of righteousness.
…. For he maketh sore, and bindeth up: he woundeth, and his hands make whole. Job 5:18
Cry now rather than later.
Later that day, she sent me a text message saying that she had been breaking down in tears all day. I remember looking at her message and thinking “What should I say?” “What do I tell her?” “What response would best help someone whose heart is breaking?” I didn’t respond directly to her message but this thought came to me - “cry now, rather than later”. By this I mean, it is better to bear the pain and the brunt of a hard but right decision than to cry harder and longer as a result of following through with the wrong decision.
I remember when I was living on campus in my final year of university and during that time I was in the process of severing a friendship. I remember waking up one day and rushing around to get to my early morning lecture, and while I was brushing my teeth I looked into the mirror and, to my surprise, I burst into tears. Now, I’m not talking about a few tear drops down my cheeks; I was literally weeping, almost uncontrollably! Some of my friends and family may find this part quite interesting as those who know me really well know I rarely ever cry. I can't actually remember the last time I cried, I think it may have been about 3 years ago but I think the last time I cried before then was probably about...SORRY!!!! Let me get back to the story! So I was crying in my little ensuite bathroom, feeling like my life was over and that I would never be happy again. The whole situation was so painful but I knew that I had to swallow the bitter pill, resting in the fact that I had made the right decision and God’s grace would be sufficient for me.
Now in 2016, am I still hurting over the situation? No, because the hurt was only temporary and the Lord truly gave me beauty for ashes and a joyful song. During that time, the Lord specifically taught me how to accept with joy whatever His providence ordains and to embrace every gift from God, including loss (I spoke about this really briefly here in my very first blog post J)
Looking back at the situation in light of what God has done in my life since then, I can honestly say that I didn’t make the right decision but the best decision. Back then I didn’t appreciate it that much but now I am truly happy that I chose to fully embrace the beauty of God’s ways.
So my dear friend, my advice to you and to anyone else who has had to make a painful but right decision is this - Cry on…let it all out, knowing that your tears are honourable before the Lord and are precious tokens of your strength and courage. It may be painful but you have chosen Him over your own ways, the Lord will draw near to you with comfort and healing and will allow you to see the fruits of unyielding obedience and the joy of walking in paths of righteousness.
…. For he maketh sore, and bindeth up: he woundeth, and his hands make whole. Job 5:18
Cry now rather than later.
Love, your girl forever
♥ Miss Daisy ♥
Amen Sister... a good reminder that sometimes the right way hurts, but the rewards will always come later :-)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful encouraging words Daisy. Your friend is very blessed to have u. Her pain is long gone now. And yes it is better to cry now than later ❤
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